But it hasn’t always been this way…
Lindsey and I talked about this topic yesterday and had a HUGE heart-to-heart a couple of nights ago and I can’t help but tell you about it now, because the lesson I am learning is life-changing.
It is good to wrestle!
I never knew that before. I didn’t know that it was okay and even HEALTHY to wrestle with her. So now, we lock arms and go toe-to-toe. We grab each other by the hair and we grapple and toss each other around the room in heated passion.
Okay, maybe not. Not exactly. But my name is Steve Austin and I have heard the jokes about my name for the past thirty-one years, so why not?
But seriously, it is good to wrestle!
I remember being in a “Nearly and Newly Married” Sunday School class at the church we were attending while engaged to be wed. I think they must throw engaged couples into the class with the newly marrieds and the older married couple that is teaching the class to do their best to scare you out of the decision! I remember Lindsey and I getting in the car after nearly every time with that class and being appalled at the way the people talked about their guy or gal! Any time we would split up the guys and the girls, several of the guys would talk about their “other half” like it was the worst thing in the world to deal with them! Apparently the girls were just as bad: gripe and growl about their man.
For the first several years of our marriage, we were so stuck on “pleasing” one another and doing things different from what we had seen with our own parents, we both held so much inside and buried it down deep. We never wrestled. We never ripped our shirts and smashed beer cans on our heads and jumped from the top rope. We never screamed and yelled. We never fought. We barely argued.
People thought our life together was absolutely perfect. I wouldn’t go back to that place for all the gold in the world.
We could learn a lot about relationships from the rules of wrestling (italics are mine).
And as a side note: People will watch your marriage. People will judge your marriage. People will typically always believe a rumor before they believe the truth, but there is nothing in this world that matters less than the opinion of an ignorant fool and there is nothing in this world that matters more than what you have in your intimate relationship with your partner. If someone isn’t sleeping with you, then their opinion REALLY doesn’t matter.
My wife and I have been through Hell and back and still have to face the gossip and criticism of others, but we continue to wrestle with God and one another and we know that this marriage has been blessed by God and that nothing in this world will ever tear us apart.
I love you Lindsey Austin. This one’s for you:
*Overview of Wrestling Rules from wvmat.com
Steve Austin is an author, speaker, and life coach who is passionate about helping overwhelmed people learn to catch their breath. He is the author of two Amazon bestsellers, "Catching Your Breath," and "From Pastor to a Psych Ward." Steve lives with his wife and two children in Birmingham, Alabama.
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