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When You Experience Your Worst Day…Again

When asked to think about my very worst day, several pop up at once in my mind. I wonder if I’m alone in this or if others have experienced their “worst day” more than once. I suppose that is a part of being human with imperfect relationships in an uncertain world. It truly feels awful […]

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How Devastating Loss Led to Ultimate Freedom

It was Thanksgiving morning, and I was standing in the shower, escaping for a moment into a world of hot water and steam. My morning shower had become my last refuge.Image by Olya Adamovich from Pixabay​Devastating Loss. Ultimate Freedom.I was no stranger to loss. In fact, loss seemed to be a fairly constant companion in […]

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Raped but Not Destroyed: Recovering from My Worst Day

I could write an altogether exhausting essay on how at seventeen I was raped – how I lost my virginity to my boyfriend and his two friends, in an act of violence and an act most definitely not consensual. Or I could write an essay on how that same night when I was at my […]

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Video: Playing Sardines with God

Is your church a safe space for people who are hurting? On Sunday, January 26th, I had the honor of sharing my story of surviving childhood sexual abuse and a suicide attempt. In addition to sharing my story, I challenged the church to become a safe place for people who are hurting – imploring us […]

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Grace: Like a Warm Blanket on My Worst Day

TRIGGER WARNING: Childhood sexual abuseI have never in my life wanted to die so badly.As I heard him pull in the driveway I froze in fear, shame, and guilt. “Get up, act busy, wipe your face girl!” I tried to tell myself. But, I just laid there frozen. I listened in horror as he gently […]

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Free Course: How to Heal Your Hurts

​Are you ready to find healing from emotional pain? Join my free Heal Your Hurts Course toay!Then join me for this brand-new, ​FREE e-course!Heal Your Hurts CourseI’ll teach you ​how to release the physical, mental, and emotional pain that keeps you stuck in a world of hurt.The FREE step-by-step process to go from pain to […]

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You are not the worst mistake you’ve ever made.

Here are ten quotes that help me recenter when I make a big mistake. I hope they help you, too. You are not the worst mistake you’ve ever made.

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My Struggle with Bad Theology and Mental Health

The stigma surrounding mental health is worse in the church than just about anywhere else. The church lacks education and, unfortunately, compassion when it comes to those suffering with mental illness. Lack of compassion and education is met with an abundance of dangerous theology. What you’re left with is a poison that is literally killing weary travelers, seeking […]

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Why I Don’t Really Care What You Believe

I was recently invited for an interview by a woman I’ve never met before. Sure, we’ve conversed over Twitter from time-to-time, but all I really knew about Erika before we sat down is that she is an atheist and she has DID (dissociative disorder). What could we possibly have in common? Well, friends, more than you […]

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Why I Believe God Works Ordinarily

For years, I believed exactly what Christine Caine’s quote says: God can do in a second what you have been unable to do alone for years. But it only led me away from Christ.