Most of my clients have a struggle with their self-worth. And can I tell you something? They're probably attracted to me because I know exactly what it feels like.
Thankfully, I've learned through years of recovery that knowing your worth protects you from being taken for granted.
How to Rebuild Your Self-Worth
If you're anything like me, you're a fairly kind person, but you probably tend to take care of others first. Don't believe me? When's the last time you were proactive with showing other people how to treat you? Each day, if you will share just a little bit of yourself with others, you'll be surprised by the amount of joy it brings. Seeing other people happy, comfortable, and safe will make you feel better.
And guess what? The same goodness you're always telling others they deserve? You deserve it, too.
So maybe it's time to stop sacrificing your own emotional well-being for the benefit of other people. Perhaps it's time to surround yourself with people who value you.
Stop sacrificing your own emotional well-being for the benefit of other people. via @iamsteveaustin #selfworth
And can we talk about trust for a minute?
Friend - trusting another person with your heart means you must take a little time to evaluate their motives for me. A healthy person knows there can be little room in our lives for anyone who abuses our kindness and openness.
What does it look like to have someone who cherishes your kindness and openness?
- Maybe it looks like surprises on your birthday. Or special treats, just to say thank you.
- It also probably means that you have friends who are willing to do their part to support a healthy relationship.
Otherwise, you will continue to suffer and struggle with resentment.
I know the news is scary these days, but if you’re one of my non-white siblings, hear me: your cultural background is part of what makes you unique! I’m so sorry for how my fellow white people have been treating you for centuries. It is not okay for anyone (including the government or other groups of people) to belittle you because of their superiority complex. Be proud of who you are and where you come from!
The same is true for each of us who have been created with the very stamp of God on our souls. We deserve safety, love, and belonging. And being accepted means taking us as we are, with everything that comes in that package. This is the heart of my "grace is messy" mantra.
Do the Work
My hope for YOU, my friend, is that you would roll up your sleeves, do the deep and difficult inner work, and rebuild your self-worth so completely that it becomes easy for you to stand up for yourself when you're being bullied in any way. Even if you're soft spoken, that's no excuse to allow anyone to treat you without dignity.
Hear me, beloved: today and always, you are worthy of respect and love. I pray that you are enclosed with an inner circle of friends who surround you with positive energy and reciprocal kindness. May you be protected by your healthy self-awareness. It is a gift from God, allowing you to be honest about what behaviors toward you are acceptable or not.
Questions to Start Rebuilding Your Self-Worth:
- What kind of treatment from other people is acceptable?
- How do you know when someone is starting to take you for granted?
- How do you reassure yourself that you are worthy of being treated kindly?
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But wait! There’s more! 🙂
One of my favorite ways to help people heal their self-worth is by empowering you to create your own affirmations, which you can recite and memorize. Retraining your brain to be kind to yourself is slow, patient work. But you're worth it.