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On Giving Up Fear-Based Theology

For Lent, I am Giving Up Fear-Based TheologyImage by James Chan from PixabayPerfect love casts out fear—such an active verb phrase. One imagines a hefty seizing by the neck-scruff and an ignominious hurling out of a doorframe. (Anyone else picturing swinging saloon doors and a random horse tied to a nearby post?  No? That’s just me?  Damn, […]

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When “No” is the Most Difficult Word You Know

​Imagine this: you’ve just built a brand new mansion right beside the ocean. The door is made of gold and the windows are stained glass. It’s three stories tall and designed with the most intricate details. It’s wide open to the public, there’s no fencing. Over the next few days, intruders start vandalizing the house. […]

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How to Stop Drowning in Busyness

For Lent, I’m Giving Up Busyness and Numbing BehaviorsMy muscles tighten as I read the word “busyness”, despite it having been my comfortable state of being for as long as I can remember.  “How are you?”, they’d ask.  “Busy, but good!”, I’d say. This was my compulsive (yet, honest) response for decades, coupled with having bought the lie that my […]

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I am Giving Up the Need to Be Right

My dad had plans. As a high school student in the early 1950s in rural Arkansas, he worked to save money for college, joined the Arkansas National Guard, and pinched pennies. He was going to be a lawyer. Turns out, his family needed him to support them financially. While he did earn his degree, law school never happened. But he […]

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I’m Giving Up Self-Contempt (And So Can You!)

For Lent, I’m giving up self-contempt.Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay”You’re not enough. No one even likes you. You always screw it up. When will you get your act together?”  Are you well acquainted, like I am, with this internal voice that berates, accuses, and condemns?This is the voice of self-contempt. It is the root of […]

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3 Meaningful Things to Give Up for Lent

​For the Lenten season, I’ve invited some of my friends to join me in sharing one thing we could give up each day, in order to live a better life. Here are 3 meaningful things to give up for lent:YesterdayGiving up anything can be painful. You may need to let go of a person or […]

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Why We Look for the Resurrection of the Dead

​I am the about least likely person to be hosting ​a 40-day online program for Lent. My family is ​brand-spankin-new to the Episcopal Church. I was raised Baptist, and then spent years in the Assemblies of God denomination. The only lint we talked about was in your dryer or belly button. But I digress. According to EpiscopalChurch.org, […]

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Why I’m Giving Up God for Lent

I’ll never forget my first experience with a “crisis of faith”. It was about fourteen years ago, during my second year of ministry school. I’d been having questions for a couple of years, and one day in Bible class, all my suspicions came to a head. I knew I couldn’t go on, ignoring that gnawing in the secret places of […]