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How Devastating Loss Led to Ultimate Freedom

It was Thanksgiving morning, and I was standing in the shower, escaping for a moment into a world of hot water and steam. My morning shower had become my last refuge.Image by Olya Adamovich from Pixabay​Devastating Loss. Ultimate Freedom.I was no stranger to loss. In fact, loss seemed to be a fairly constant companion in […]

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Why Psychological Safety is at the Core of Love

“…as counselors and neuroscientists continue to confirm, the ability to shape a narrative from your experiences, and to connect your story to a greater one, is essential for developing empathy, a sense of purpose, and well-being.”—Rachel Held Evans, InspiredImage by PublicDomainPictures from PixabayHide and SeekGrowing up in a small town in rural Alabama, my first […]

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Video: Playing Sardines with God

Is your church a safe space for people who are hurting? On Sunday, January 26th, I had the honor of sharing my story of surviving childhood sexual abuse and a suicide attempt. In addition to sharing my story, I challenged the church to become a safe place for people who are hurting – imploring us […]

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Technology and The Worst Day of My Life

​I remember the day like it was yesterday, the excitement and anxiety. I was plagued with anticipation, my hands were sweaty, and my heart was racing. What would this day be like? What would transpire on the days that followed? I had questions, I had reservations, but I was going all-in. However, this particular day […]

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Terminated by the Church: My Very Worst Day

“Besides, I shall perhaps obtain actual relief from writing. Today, for instance, I am particularly oppressed by one memory of a distant past. It came back vividly to my mind a few days ago, and has remained haunting me like an annoying tune that one cannot get rid of. And yet I must get rid […]

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Online Yardsale: How to Support My Trip to France

​In 2020, every 40 seconds, someone around the globe will die by suicide. And for every 1 who dies, 25 more attempt. But it doesn’t have to be that way.Will you help me save lives this year?I’ve recently been accepted to a week-long writer’s residency in France. It’s an opportunity most writers only dream of: […]

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Surviving an Affair: How I Found Grace After He Cheated

I’ll never forget the day I started cursing. It was the day my husband admitted to having an affair.Even though I had suspected for a few months, all I could do was whisper “Bastard” and walk out the door. (I know, pretty low on the cussing scale, but we all have to start somewhere!) It was […]

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God’s Embrace in the Midst of Desperation

I’ve just returned from a truly magical time on the West Coast. On Sunday 12/15, I had the distinct pleasure of speaking at my friend Marc’s church, Bridge City Church in Milwaukie, Oregon. This is the text from that sermon. -Steve Desperate for Hope ‘Oh God.’ Five letters. Two words. One exhale. Full stop. ‘Oh […]

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Life-Giving Spiritual Practices for Weary Parents

Welcome to episode 33 of Catching Your Breath: The Podcast. I’m so excited for you to hear this conversation ​with Courtney Ellis about life-giving spiritual conversations for weary parents. ​​I often tell people that parenting is the hardest job you’ll ever love. You’re still trying to figure out who you are, deal with your own baggage, […]

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4 Ways Your Church Should Look More Like a Psych Ward

​Christians with mental illness are desperate for authenticity. So how do we facilitate honesty in church? It could start by having a prayer box specifically for mental health concerns, and continue through messages from the pulpit.  One of the missions of the church is to help people grow. Our journey toward wholeness requires permission to be […]