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How Devastating Loss Led to Ultimate Freedom

It was Thanksgiving morning, and I was standing in the shower, escaping for a moment into a world of hot water and steam. My morning shower had become my last refuge.Image by Olya Adamovich from Pixabay​Devastating Loss. Ultimate Freedom.I was no stranger to loss. In fact, loss seemed to be a fairly constant companion in […]

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He Left Me in the Midst of Mental Anguish

“The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places.”-Ernest HemingwayThe worst day of my life was the day my husband left me.He walked out on the anniversary of the day he first asked me out, twelve years earlier. We were sixteen then – high school sweethearts. When he walked out, we […]

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Surviving an Affair: How I Found Grace After He Cheated

I’ll never forget the day I started cursing. It was the day my husband admitted to having an affair.Even though I had suspected for a few months, all I could do was whisper “Bastard” and walk out the door. (I know, pretty low on the cussing scale, but we all have to start somewhere!) It was […]

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Enjoy a Healthy, Happy, Low-Stress Holiday

​Enjoy a Healthy, Happy, Low-Stress Holiday​The holidays are upon us. ​If it seems like you can’t get anything right, or find time ​to simply catch your breath, spend a few minutes with me while I teach you how to have a healthy, happy, low-stress holiday.The hectic aspects of the holidays are, unfortunately, a sign of […]

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Surviving Suicide: You are Not Alone

facebook.com/devinbalramphotoA friend of mine asks deep questions with ease. We often talk about mental health and check in with each other, sharing our experiences of surviving suicide. She’s lost close friends, and I nearly lost my husband.She asked me, “How do you feel these days when Steve is speaking somewhere and you’re in the audience?”If […]

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Betrayed: How to Stop Being Taken for Granted

​When ​did you last feel taken for granted?Was it today? Last week? Four years ago? If it was deep heartache, it doesn’t matter how long ago it was; you likely haven’t forgotten the feeling of being taken for granted.I recently received an email from someone walking through a crushing season of betrayal. Her heart is […]

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Life-Giving Spiritual Practices for Weary Parents

Welcome to episode 33 of Catching Your Breath: The Podcast. I’m so excited for you to hear this conversation ​with Courtney Ellis about life-giving spiritual conversations for weary parents. ​​I often tell people that parenting is the hardest job you’ll ever love. You’re still trying to figure out who you are, deal with your own baggage, […]

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Podcast: How to Find Balance for Stressed Out Parents

​How to Find Balance for Stressed Out ParentsHoly End of the School Year, Batman! My wife is a teacher. Each day from 7-2:30, she ​teaches 14 three-year-olds. On top of that, we have two school-aged children of our own. That being said, this time of year is often chaotic and exhausting. End of the year parties, […]

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You Can’t Glue Ashes: Notes on the First Year of Grief

“​Blind me to the faults of the other fellow, but reveal to me my own.”-Ben House, Sr.To: Ben, From: BenA few days before Valentine’s day, my first-grader was sitting at the kitchen table filling out twenty superhero cards for his friends. When he filled one out for Ben, I was a little confused. He’d never […]

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Grief is Weird: Hosting a Birthday Party at the Graveyard

“Are we going to have a birthday party at the graveyard?” I nearly had to pull over on the side of the road to catch my breath.