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On Giving Up Fear-Based Theology

For Lent, I am Giving Up Fear-Based TheologyImage by James Chan from PixabayPerfect love casts out fear—such an active verb phrase. One imagines a hefty seizing by the neck-scruff and an ignominious hurling out of a doorframe. (Anyone else picturing swinging saloon doors and a random horse tied to a nearby post?  No? That’s just me?  Damn, […]

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Why Psychological Safety is at the Core of Love

“…as counselors and neuroscientists continue to confirm, the ability to shape a narrative from your experiences, and to connect your story to a greater one, is essential for developing empathy, a sense of purpose, and well-being.”—Rachel Held Evans, InspiredImage by PublicDomainPictures from PixabayHide and SeekGrowing up in a small town in rural Alabama, my first […]

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Why No One Really Cares What You Believe

“One of the great tragedies of life is that men seldom bridge the gulf between practice and profession, between doing and saying. A persistent schizophrenia leaves so many of us tragically divided against ourselves. On the one hand, we proudly profess certain sublime and noble principles, but on the other hand, we sadly practise the […]

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It’s Hard to Preach Love While Full of Hate

Jonah refused to preach to a group of people he hated. I’ve been there. And I was wrong.

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Grief is Weird: Hosting a Birthday Party at the Graveyard

“Are we going to have a birthday party at the graveyard?” I nearly had to pull over on the side of the road to catch my breath.

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Love is the Organizing Center of All that Is

Rev. Ed Bacon says that Divine Love is alot like a mandala.

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You’ll Never Believe Her Response to the Perfect Proposal

Here’s the truth: there is no magic potion or secret formula to a pain-free marriage or an easy life. Both require hard work and loads of compassion. But you can learn a lot about marriage from this not-so-perfect proposal.

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Are You Scared of God? Me too.

“When you are fully known and loved you have a home.” –Joel Ansett “…known and loved.” The words make my stomach twist and knot. I cringe and my insides curdle at the thought of being known. I shrink back in fear of being seen as I truly am. I’ve been scared of God for years. And […]

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Do I Have to Love My Racist Friend? (And Other Uncomfortable Questions Caused by Grace)

Tommy actually ordered one of those hats. Yes, that hat! The hat with absolutely no style. You know the one. The one in bright red that has a meaningless political slogan on it. Except, Tommy’s hat is in camo. Yes, a camouflage political hat. And he’s pretty damn proud of it, as he says.

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Is it possible to live again? Life after PPD.

After Ben’s birth in September 2011, I suffered from severe sleep deprivation, psychosis, and postpartum depression.
It was the darkest time in my life. I was hospitalized for nearly 2 weeks and separated from my newborn for most of that time. The situation was completely beyond my control but I felt so much shame over it. With the help of good doctors and my amazing family I began to recover and finally feel like myself again.