Two years after I almost died by suicide, a car wreck threatened to destroy our marriage. Image by Steve Buissinne from PixabayHow Falling Asleep at the Wheel Saved My MarriageIt was September of 2014. My little boy, Ben, was turning three, and Sweet Caroline was about five months old. I had been in recovery, rebuilding […]
It was Thanksgiving morning, and I was standing in the shower, escaping for a moment into a world of hot water and steam. My morning shower had become my last refuge.Image by Olya Adamovich from PixabayDevastating Loss. Ultimate Freedom.I was no stranger to loss. In fact, loss seemed to be a fairly constant companion in […]
“The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places.”-Ernest HemingwayThe worst day of my life was the day my husband left me.He walked out on the anniversary of the day he first asked me out, twelve years earlier. We were sixteen then – high school sweethearts. When he walked out, we […]
I’ll never forget the day I started cursing. It was the day my husband admitted to having an affair.Even though I had suspected for a few months, all I could do was whisper “Bastard” and walk out the door. (I know, pretty low on the cussing scale, but we all have to start somewhere!) It was […]
facebook.com/devinbalramphotoA friend of mine asks deep questions with ease. We often talk about mental health and check in with each other, sharing our experiences of surviving suicide. She’s lost close friends, and I nearly lost my husband.She asked me, “How do you feel these days when Steve is speaking somewhere and you’re in the audience?”If […]
How to Find Balance for Stressed Out ParentsHoly End of the School Year, Batman! My wife is a teacher. Each day from 7-2:30, she teaches 14 three-year-olds. On top of that, we have two school-aged children of our own. That being said, this time of year is often chaotic and exhausting. End of the year parties, […]
Marriage is hard work. Are you overwhelmed? Here’s 45 pieces of the best marriage advice ever.
Here’s the truth: there is no magic potion or secret formula to a pain-free marriage or an easy life. Both require hard work and loads of compassion. But you can learn a lot about marriage from this not-so-perfect proposal.
I’m divorced. Well, not really. I’m now married. Happily, with five kids. But I have been divorced, or, more appropriately, have gone through a divorce. There’s a difference.
The past does not define us. Divorce, in particular, is not a label.
Many Christians disagree. Many Christians deem divorce the mark of death, the breaking of God’s covenant, the dreaded scarlet letter. It’s one of those ‘sins’ that is given greater weight than others – like, you know, killing people, being gay, having loads of premarital sex – and, likewise, damns those who go through it to raw ditch pits and hellfire.
We’ve been married nine years today. During that time, we’ve done a lot of living. We’ve learned some beautiful and some painful lessons. We’ve each spent a week on a psych ward. We’ve had two babies. We’ve led two youth groups. We’ve nearly divorced at least once. And we have only just begun to learn what truly matters in life.
One thing is for sure, there are several things no one tells you before you walk down that aisle.