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Why I’m Trying Out Church Again for the First Time

“I suppose that since most of our hurts come through relationships, so will our healing, and I know that grace rarely makes sense for those looking in from the outside.”-Wm. Paul YoungDead InsideFor a while now, my Christian friends have laughed (or cringed) at my response to theological talk. I usually say something like, “I […]

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What the Hell is a Christian Agnostic?

After reading Catching Your Breath, the one thing everyone seems to want to know is this: what the hell is a Christian Agnostic?

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How to Deal with Toxic People without Becoming Poisoned

Our culture seems more divided than ever before. Whether it’s politics, education, parenting models, or the church, we’ve perfected the art of screaming. How do you deal with toxic people without becoming poisoned in the process? 

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A Spiritual Misfit’s Journey: Faith Like Lego’s

My little boy is a Lego-maniac. He’s only six-years-old, but he’s got a brilliant imagination and is meticulous with the details. At least once a month, his grandmother takes him to a “build night” at the local Lego store. Forthe first few months, on build nights, Ben would get a small kit and follow the […]

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How to Reconstruct While You Deconstruct Your Faith

I’ve been thinking a lot about deconstruction: the changing of our beliefs, the loss of faith, the shift in our religious habits and behaviors, and the transformation of our inner and social selves. This is what I help people do. I’ve been doing it for many years. Deconstruct Your Faith One of the things I […]

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The Truth about Millennials and Church

“Only those who recognize the extent of their wounds and their wounding can be made well.”-Rachel Held Evans,  Searching for SundayI’m a 30-something Millennial, and a former pastor. Most folks would assume that combination would make me pretty cynical. For a while, they would have been right. While I was railing against toxic people and […]

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Are You Scared of God? Me too.

“When you are fully known and loved you have a home.” –Joel Ansett “…known and loved.” The words make my stomach twist and knot. I cringe and my insides curdle at the thought of being known. I shrink back in fear of being seen as I truly am. I’ve been scared of God for years. And […]

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Why Your Humanity Matters More than Your Christianity

In Episode 010 of the #AskSteveAustin Podcast, I tackle the idea that our humanity matters more than our religious labels.  More than any other episode, this one is all about messy grace. In conversation, people tend to struggle with the idea that I’m a former pastor. For them, the concept of former means I must […]

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9 Ways to Know if You’re in an Oppressive Church

For many people I know, Christianity has been boiled down to morality. It has become a way to ensure you skip eternal damnation. It’s a list of do’s and don’ts, but there is no real freedom. Many Christians have traded the yoke of slavery for the yoke of religion, and both are dead.

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Religion is Complicated. Jesus is Not.

I believe in a Jesus who straightened out all the crooked paths we humans devised and made the complicated things simple. I believe in a Jesus who welcomed the little children who longed to be near him. I am one of those little children, who is content just to at His feet.