Soul-Care is an interpersonal relationship in which a mentor partners with another person who longs to unclutter their soul and heal their image of God and self.
If you’ve heard the theological buzzword “deconstruction” tossed around, Soul-Care is a way to deconstruct your faith safely and in confidence. In this process, we will not only deconstruct the fear-based lies you’ve believed about God, but we’ll also begin to reconstruct your new, loving image of God.
Another theological buzzword you might have heard before is the term “spiritual maturity.” Through Soul-Care, you will develop a stronger (more mature and genuine) faith, while not skirting around the difficulties, sufferings, disappointments, and problems of the human experience.
In essence, Soul-Care is the guided journey of reconciling who you are, the wounds you’ve received, the hopes you have, and what you believe about God. Soul-Care is centered on God’s desire for you to be made whole. It is getting in tune with the inner and outer forces in one's life, gradually understanding more clearly the inner movement of the Spirit, who constantly calls you toward Divine Love.
The primary goal of Soul-Care is an intentional conversation with a spiritual mentor, which enables you to objectify, conceptualize, express and understand your relationship with that which we call God. Another goal of Soul-Care is to discern the movements and guidance of God in your life.
The Christian life is about death and resurrection. In dying and finding new life, Soul-Care Sessions will empower you to face life head-on, with gritty hope in God.
Do you need it? The short answer is: it depends.
The ideal Soul-Care participant looks something like this:
Take your time. Perhaps, get a second opinion.
Talk with trusted friends or family members who have done something similar and found it helpful.
Because Soul-Care is deeply personal and must be an open dialogue, it should be with a person with whom you feel at ease, someone with whom you believe you could be direct and honest.
Needs for individual vary. It is important to contract sessions for a definite period of time (six months or a year) and at the end of that time, evaluate what has taken place and decide if both persons wish to continue. Consider the frequency (every two or four weeks) and the length of the individual sessions (45-60 minutes).
Above all, Soul-Care sessions should be done with someone who has a good dose of common sense and humanity. It is good to ask for an interview with the person (you can schedule one with me here). Both of you can share your expectations and goals for the time that would be spent together. After the interview, take the time to think and pray for a few days before making a decision.
Steve Austin is an author, speaker, and life coach who is passionate about helping overwhelmed people learn to catch their breath. He is the author of two Amazon bestsellers, "Catching Your Breath," and "From Pastor to a Psych Ward." Steve lives with his wife and two children in Birmingham, Alabama.
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