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Pastor: Not Sure How to Respond to Suffering? Start Here.

I’m not a theologian, my expertise comes only from personal suffering (as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and a suicide attempt). But it seems to me that theology—at least the Western version of evangelical Christianity I’ve been steeped in—is as much about our views of self as it is our study of God. To […]

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3 Myths about Hope

“The problem with wagging our fingers at oppressed people who use force in their struggles for freedom is that we’re overlooking an important fact: namely, that the force of resistance necessary for their liberation is determined by the severity of the oppression they face. The amount of force necessary to liberate oneself from an oppressive power […]

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How to Rebuild Your Self-Worth (free bundle download)

Most of my clients have a struggle with their self-worth. And can I tell you something? They’re probably attracted to me because I know exactly what it feels like.Thankfully, I’ve learned through years of recovery that knowing your worth protects you from being taken for granted.inner worth phrase written on chalkboard with red heart symbolHow […]

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8 Simple Ways to Increase Your Happiness with Self-Care

​To say that 2020 has been exhausting is the understatement of the year. As I write this, we’re in the throes of social distancing, isolation, and even quarantine. Because of Covid-19, 2020 hasn’t just been exhausting, stressful, and overwhelming: for 100,000 people in the United States and 350,000 people worldwide, 2020 has been deadly. Maybe you […]

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Church and Mental Illness: How to Stop Failing People

“When we can let go of what other people think and own our story, we gain access to our worthiness—the feeling that we are enough just as we are and that we are worthy of love and belonging.” —Brené BrownIn recent years, several well-known Christian leaders have died by apparent suicide: Amy Bleuel, Andrew Stoecklein, […]

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When You Experience Your Worst Day…Again

When asked to think about my very worst day, several pop up at once in my mind. I wonder if I’m alone in this or if others have experienced their “worst day” more than once. I suppose that is a part of being human with imperfect relationships in an uncertain world. It truly feels awful […]

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15 Simple Ways to Calm Your Anxious Mind

I have lived with anxiety for as long as I can remember. In addition to regular check-ups with my doctor, taking my prescription mediation, and talking with a therapist, grounding techniques help control my symptoms by turning my attention away from thoughts, memories, or worries, and refocusing on the present moment.Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed […]

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9 Proven Ways to Support Someone with Depression

Things like a global pandemic really have a way of triggering our mental health. Uncertainty about the future, financial insecurity, and loneliness are just a few current issues that can increase things like stress, anxiety, and depression.If you’re in the group that feels guilty because life is actually pretty good for you right now, it’s […]

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How to Trust God in the Midst of Adversity

“I can do all things through Christ Who gives me strength.” Philippians 4:13
I don’t think this verse is our promise from God that we can do anything we put our minds to. I think it is actually a verse of comfort from a guy who wrote it while chained in prison, encouraging the rest of us who are stuck in dire circumstances to keep trusting. I think this verse actually drives home the very crux of the Gospel of Grace: we can face all sorts of things and persevere through them, as long as we keep trusting in a faithful, changeless God.

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How Falling Asleep at the Wheel Saved My Marriage

Two years after I almost died by suicide, a car wreck threatened to destroy our marriage. Image by Steve Buissinne from PixabayHow Falling Asleep at the Wheel Saved My MarriageIt was September of 2014. My little boy, Ben, was turning three, and Sweet Caroline was about five months old. I had been in recovery, rebuilding […]