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When Life is Painful, You Need a Suffering Savior

When life is painful, you don’t need a God who is disconnected from the harsh realities of daily life. You need a suffering savior.

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catching your breath self-care Self-help stress management

How to Stop Feeling So Overwhelmed.

Feeling overwhelmed? Hint: The busier you are, the MORE you need some commitment-free time.

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catching your breath podcast

The Power of Non-Judgmental Presence

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-j6kr4-e2dbfb Welcome to Catching Your Breath: The Podcast, Episode 63. Today we’re discussing the power of non-judgmental presence. How can co-suffering with hurting people change everything? These notes are the bits and pieces that didn’t make it into my upcoming book with Fortress Press, but because I’m so passionate about this topic, I just couldn’t […]

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The End of the World As We Know It

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-ww8am-e102da Welcome back to Catching Your Breath: The Podcast, with host, Steve Austin. This is episode 62. The full title is, “It’s The End of the World As We Know It: How to Find Hope, Healing, and Inner Peace Amid Racial Tensions, A Global Pandemic, and a Political Dumpster Fire.” (No, really.) This episode includes […]

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faith Mental Health The Struggle With Church

Pastor: Not Sure How to Respond to Suffering? Start Here.

I’m not a theologian, my expertise comes only from personal suffering (as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and a suicide attempt). But it seems to me that theology—at least the Western version of evangelical Christianity I’ve been steeped in—is as much about our views of self as it is our study of God. To […]

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Current Events politics

3 Myths about Hope

“The problem with wagging our fingers at oppressed people who use force in their struggles for freedom is that we’re overlooking an important fact: namely, that the force of resistance necessary for their liberation is determined by the severity of the oppression they face. The amount of force necessary to liberate oneself from an oppressive power […]

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Self-help

How to Rebuild Your Self-Worth (free bundle download)

Most of my clients have a struggle with their self-worth. And can I tell you something? They’re probably attracted to me because I know exactly what it feels like.Thankfully, I’ve learned through years of recovery that knowing your worth protects you from being taken for granted.inner worth phrase written on chalkboard with red heart symbolHow […]

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Mental Health self-care Self-help

8 Simple Ways to Increase Your Happiness with Self-Care

​To say that 2020 has been exhausting is the understatement of the year. As I write this, we’re in the throes of social distancing, isolation, and even quarantine. Because of Covid-19, 2020 hasn’t just been exhausting, stressful, and overwhelming: for 100,000 people in the United States and 350,000 people worldwide, 2020 has been deadly. Maybe you […]

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Depression faith Mental Health Recovery from a Suicid...

Church and Mental Illness: How to Stop Failing People

“When we can let go of what other people think and own our story, we gain access to our worthiness—the feeling that we are enough just as we are and that we are worthy of love and belonging.” —Brené BrownIn recent years, several well-known Christian leaders have died by apparent suicide: Amy Bleuel, Andrew Stoecklein, […]

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Mental Health My Very Worst Day (series) Recovery from Abuse

When You Experience Your Worst Day…Again

When asked to think about my very worst day, several pop up at once in my mind. I wonder if I’m alone in this or if others have experienced their “worst day” more than once. I suppose that is a part of being human with imperfect relationships in an uncertain world. It truly feels awful […]